I’m very lucky in the friendship department. I have a group of 12 core friends – we call ourselves “The Mom Posse” because we met through a mom’s group about 12 years ago. As our kids have grown older, our relationships have changed – it’s no longer about play dates and more about getting away from the pre-teens to spend time together over a few drinks.
I say that “I’m lucky” but I think the reality is that it’s more than luck. I’ve worked hard to have the friendships that I do and we have to make an effort to get together on a regular basis. We have a book club night each month, we try to have dinner with each other regularly, etc. We’re there for each other, through the very good times and the very bad times.
While I completely agree with most of what this book had to say, there were parts that kind of bugged me a bit. I totally agree that friendships don’t just happen and it’s like any other relationship in that you have to show up, nurture it and be consistent. I also completely agreed that relationships can change and ebb and flow and all that great stuff.
What I had the hardest time was the act of putting my friends into buckets, it felt too much like pigeon-holing our relationship. I think friendships are much more fluid than that.
Having said that, this book did really make me look at my friendships and analyze them a little as far as who I was friends with, why and what that friendship meant to me. I think you can over analyze it though. Sometimes, you’re simply friends and sometimes… that’s all that matters.
I did choose this book for a book club selection and I’m interested to see what they thought of it.
Recommended for those that do want to delve a little deeper into their friendships and figure out why things work sometimes – and why they don’t.
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Book count for 2013: 18